Separation Anxiety and Starting School

Starting school for the first time is a big milestone for both children and parents. It can be an exciting time, but it can also be a time of anxiety, especially for children who are not used to being away from their parents for long periods of time.


Separation anxiety is a normal and common emotion in young children. It is a fear of being separated from their primary caregivers, usually their parents. This fear can be triggered by a variety of things, such as a new environment, new people, or a change in routine.


For some children, separation anxiety may be mild and only last a few days or weeks. For others, it may be more severe and last longer. If your child is struggling with separation anxiety, there are things you can do to help them cope.

Here are some tips for helping your child overcome separation anxiety:

  • Talk to your child about starting school. Explain what will happen on their first day, who they will meet, and what activities they will do.
  • Visit the school before the first day. This will help your child get familiar with the environment and meet some of the teachers and staff.
  • Start by leaving your child for short periods of time. Gradually increase the amount of time you spend away from them.
  • Be patient and understanding. It takes time for children to adjust to new situations.
  • Reassure your child that you will always come back for them.

If your child is still struggling with separation anxiety after a few weeks, talk to their teacher or pediatrician. They may be able to offer additional support or resources.

Here are some additional tips that may help your child overcome separation anxiety:

  • Read books about going to school. There are many children's books that can help prepare children for starting school.
  • Let your child bring a special toy or blanket to school with them. This can help them feel more secure.
  • Encourage your child to make friends at school. Having friends can help children feel less anxious about being away from their parents.
  • Praise your child for their efforts. Let them know that you are proud of them for going to school.

With time and patience, most children will overcome separation anxiety and adjust to school. However, if your child is struggling, don't hesitate to chat to us.

Coping with an Adult ADHD Diagnosis

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Coming Out: Coping with Family and Friend Fallout

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National Coming Out Day is a time for LGBTQ+ individuals to celebrate their identities and live authentically. However, coming out can also be a challenging experience, especially when faced with negative reactions from family and friends. If you're experiencing fallout from coming out, know that you're not alone. Many LGBTQ+ individuals face similar challenges. Here are some tips to help you cope: 1. Prioritise Your Mental Health Seek support: Reach out to friends, family members, or a therapist who is supportive of your identity. Practice self-care: Engage in activities that help you relax and de-stress, such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature. Join a support group: Connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences can provide valuable support and understanding. 2. Set Boundaries Communicate your needs: Clearly express your boundaries to those who are struggling to accept your identity. Limit contact: If necessary, limit your contact with individuals who are causing you significant distress. 3. Build a Support Network Connect with the LGBTQ+ community: Join local LGBTQ+ organizations or online communities to find support and a sense of belonging. Reach out to friends and family who are supportive: Spend time with people who accept and love you for who you are. 4. Focus on Your Well-being Remember your worth: Your identity is valid and valuable, regardless of others' opinions. Celebrate your journey: Acknowledge the courage it takes to come out and celebrate your progress. At JHD/CHD, our founder, Carol, is a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community. We understand firsthand the challenges that can arise when coming out. Our team of experienced counselors is dedicated to providing compassionate and supportive care to individuals who are navigating their identities. If you're struggling to cope with fallout from coming out, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. We're here to help you through this potentially difficult time.

Celebrating Black History Month

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Celebrating Black History Month! We're honouring pioneering people of colour in the counselling & therapy sector. Join us as we spotlight their incredible contributions and legacies that continue to inspire!  There have been numerous pioneering people of colour in the counseling and therapy sector. Their contributions have been invaluable in shaping the field and ensuring that culturally competent care is accessible to all. Here are a few notable figures: Mamie Phipps Clark and Kenneth Bancroft Clark: This husband-and-wife duo conducted groundbreaking research on the psychological effects of segregation on Black children. Their famous "doll study" played a pivotal role in the landmark Supreme Court case Brown v. Board of Education. Joseph L. White: A prominent figure in Black psychology, White founded the Association of Black Psychologists (ABPsi) in 1968. His work emphasised the importance of culturally relevant approaches to therapy. Linda James Myers: A pioneer in the field of multicultural counseling, Myers developed the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) for people of colour. Her work helped to address the lack of culturally appropriate assessment tools. Carl Rogers: While not a person of colour himself, Rogers' client-centered therapy approach has been influential in the development of multicultural counselling. His emphasis on empathy, unconditional positive regard, and genuineness has been adopted by many therapists working with diverse populations. These are just a few examples of the many pioneering people of color who have made significant contributions to the counseling and therapy sector. Their work has helped to dismantle systemic barriers and ensure that mental health services are accessible and culturally relevant for all.
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